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As a new bride, you have a million new dreams in your mind. You cannot wait to enter this new phase of life where you will be sharing your life with your spouse and taking on so many new responsibilities and challenges.
But, you have to realise that it is not just the guy you are marrying but his entire family, especially his parents. You will be spending quite some time with them henceforth, and so you want to make every possible effort to be adored by them. But while doing so, you need to be careful too.
They may be extremely welcoming and friendly towards you, but there are still a few things you need to restrain yourself from speaking in front of them, some of which are given below.
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You might have had a very interesting past. You might have had one or more relationships which are now buried, and are actually in the PAST. But, your in-laws might not take it so casually. They might unnecessarily judge you or form unwanted opinions.
Even if you are newly-married, having small or big fights every now and then is very normal. But do not make the mistake of sharing them with your in-laws. Let that be an aspect of your personal life. Do not show a third person any cracks in the wall of your relationship, ever.
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Yes, there will always be one or more people in your new family whom you cannot stand. And, every time you meet them, they get on your nerves. But, you do not need your in-laws to know that. Share such feelings with your husband, but never with them.
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When there are some monetary issues going on in the house, do not directly give strong opinions or advice. Discuss your feelings on the topic with your husband first, and if he feels it sounds good, let him back you when you share your views with them. Do not let them feel that you are getting too big for your boots.
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Never ever do that! Remember, blood is thicker than water, and asking them to favour you over their son, even if he is at fault, might turn out to be a big flop show for you.
They might be the best of companions or they might have a bitter, broken relationship. Whatever be the case, do not ever take the liberty to comment on its status. You do not know how their life has been before you came into it, and what all they have gone through. It is a very sensitive topic, and so it is best avoided!
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Even if you do not feel like it, do not bluntly refuse them to come over and visit you. They might have some important work or just feel like meeting you and their son, so be kind. After all, you need to make the right impression.
All individuals are different with different likes and dislikes. What you like may be strange to them, and some of their choices might seem weird to you. Better is to just leave it there, and carry on with your individual lives!
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Why on earth would you want them to know the details of that? Just, why?
Yes, they have every right to know about a decision this huge, but you are not the right person to break the news. Let your husband do it in his own time and own way.
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Questioning their parenting skills does not seem like a great idea unless you want to be enemies with them for the rest of your life. Each parent does their best to bring up their children in the best possible way, and doubting their hard work is not such a nice thing to do.
Yes, we know that your parents will always be number one for you in everything, but comparing them with your in-laws and proving that yours are better will only earn you negative points.
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So, at least in the beginning, when you are trying to settle into their family to want it make it your own, chose your actions and words wisely and you could become their dream daughter-in-law just by doing that!