A new relationship needs a lot of love, care, commitment and understanding to blossom. More so in the case of an arranged marriage, where you do not know your fiance very well and have just recently met. You are curious to know what your partner is really like, you want to spend a lot of time together and do so much more.
But at the same time, you do not want it to look like you are coming on too strong or are desperate. So how do you strike the balance? Well, we are here to guide you to do just that and form a beautiful bond with your spouse to-be!
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Unless you do not stop thinking about your past relationship, you cannot be 100 per cent into your new one. You need to get out of it gracefully, forgive or let go, and start afresh.
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You do not need to find out everything about your partner on day one. Take it easy! Give each other breathing space and do not be in a hurry to become the ideal couple that everyone envies!
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Your past might have had a few positives, but what is in the past is over and done with. Instead, try to appreciate all the good things your partner does for you and how lucky and blessed you are to have met each other.
Do not try to be someone else to please your partner. Do not fool the other person by showing a picture of yourself that does not exist in reality because later, when you are back to being yourself, your partner might feel cheated. Just dress, walk, talk, laugh, scream, shout and do everything else the way you really are.
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Join a hobby, play an instrument, cook together, etc. Not only will you spend more time together, but will also build beautiful memories. And who knows, you might even end up learning a new art!
Don’t you want the opportunity to talk to your partner as much as possible? Then why text when you can call. It is a wonderful gesture and might just end up turning your partner’s rather dull and depressing day into a beautiful one!
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Getting married does not mean the end of your previous life. It is the beginning of a new phase of the same life. So do not give up on what all you have achieved till date. Your partner too will love you more for that. Also, encourage your partner to do the same. Your support and motivation towards him/her can bring you closer than ever!
Why not? Wouldn’t it be great to marry your BFF? So what if you two have just met? If you genuinely want to, then its better late than never, right?
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Whether your friends like your partner or not is immaterial if you really love each other. After all, you know each other best, and as for your friends, they will slowly begin to like him/her as well. Family pressures such as trying to know each other well quickly, go beyond limits to impress your in-laws, be in everyone’s good books, etc., are best left ignored. You obviously should do all of that but at your own pace and without losing your true identity.
For the better of course! Be open to change. Be it for your partner’s happiness, a new wardrobe change, a new look, trying out hobbies your partner enjoys doing and just small things that attract the two of you to each other. Change can sometimes bring about life altering results!
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Talk to each other as often as possible. Discuss your families, your friends, your work, your daily routines etc. Always be in the look with each other’s lives and interested to know what’s new in your partner’s life.
You never know the reason behind your partner’s specific behaviour, or why he gets emotional or angry over some topics. Until you get to the depth of the matter, do not judge each other. Instead, try to find out what is wrong and support each other to find solutions. Be each other’s pillars of support!
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Do not be over-possessive if your partner has a few friends of the opposite sex or spends more time with some close friend and not with you. Also, do not compliment him/her unnecessarily without actually meaning it as you might come across as being clingy and fake. At the same time, do not be over-involved in your own world to an extent that your partner feels ignored, unappreciated and unwanted. Strike the balance right, this is just the beginning to a lifelong commitment, you ought to do it right!
Friends are an integral part of our lives. Their suggestions, their verdicts and thought on everything do matter to us. So when it comes to your future spouse, make an effort to mingle with his/her friends not because you have to, but because you want to. Let your partner know that you too will respect and carry forward all their relations forever!
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The courtship period is the most memorable and fun period of any couple’s life. The butterflies in the stomach, the goosebumps that follow even at the thought of the first kiss, the innumerable dates and the future planning, are all things that make it even more special. So, if you too are keen on being your fiance’s best friend, tag them here and begin your new journey with a strong bond of love and understanding!
