For a newlywed bride, adjusting whole-heartedly into her new home with new family members is the biggest challenge she has to face. The situation become all the more difficult, especially if a bride is entering a traditional joint family setup, and if she is coming from a nuclear family herself.
In a joint family there will be all sorts of members with different temperaments, nature and perspectives. And amongst them all, there will always be those few who are more demanding than others, ones who cannot think above themselves! Dear soon-to-be and newlywed brides, here are 5 tactful tips to handle such difficult people in your new family, with ease and patience.
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There are people who think of themselves to no end, and believe that they are always right. They like all the attention focused on themselves, all the time! The best way to deal with them is to accept that they will never change. And, especially “you”, someone who is new to the family and probably younger to them, might not be able to change their personality.
Be polite and cordial to them, but do not take unnecessary measures to please them, because most of your efforts either would go in vain or fuel their “I’m above all” nature further.
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You can never satisfy people who think that they alone are always right. As a new bride, you have other things to do such as building new relations, getting to know your partner and his family better, and starting an entirely new chapter of your life. Ignore people who have their own stubborn take on almost everything in life.
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It is very rightly said that amidst the company of self-centered and egoistic people, ignorance is a bliss! So, instead of wrecking your brains behind them, make time for other members of your house.
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If a new bride speaks back to anyone in a rude or irritated manner, it forms her negative image in front of her in-laws. Thus, don’t waste your energy getting irritated with the narcissistic lot in the house. Make sure to keep you conversations very basic and small with them.
Don’t discuss deeper issues with them, as they will keep giving you self-centered and unwanted advice. Get rid of their company by excusing yourself, or steer the conversation away from their favourite topics as soon as possible.
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It is best to seek help and advice from other members of your new family, on how to deal with the person in question. Best is to confide in your husband, and take his advice on how to handle that particular family member. But make sure that whomever you confide in, it should not come across as if you are complaining, gossiping, or backbiting about that person.
Pick up the topic as tactfully as possible. It should come across as if you care for each and every member of the family, and want to bond with each and every one of them at the same level.
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When a bride leaves her parents' house and moves to her husband’s, she already has a lot going on the emotional front. As she obviously misses her family, she is also trying hard to keep up to everyone’s expectations, and is gearing up towards the beginning of a new life. In such a situation, a difficult family member will always try to pull her down. They don’t care if their opinions, which are in most cases unwanted, can also hurt someone’s feelings. So, it is always wiser to keep you inner feelings about such people and youropinions to yourselves.
Don’t let their words get to you. Remember that your views and opinions do not matter to you and you have better things to do in life than getting hurt by their actions.
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There is nothing known as a perfect life. Everybody has their share of ups and downs and deal with weird and self-centered people at some point in life. So follow these simple yet effective rules and enjoy your newly married life without any disturbances!
