Arranged marriages still continue to have the charm it had when the concept first started. Even though parents today, keep a look out for potential partners for their children, the decision of selecting the perfect match rests in the hands of the children alone. As easy as this task might seem, saying yes to a guy you have just met, and with whom you will be spending your entire life, is no piece of cake. Also, recently, we came across a lot of questions and concerns on discussion forum, Quora, that girls raised, as they could not decide which guy to choose out of two or more options. Like say, what qualities to look for in a guy and which to reject?
So, we thought of rescuing you from this dilemma and decided to bring you a list of things that will help you make the right choice!
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Well, if you like both the guys equally and have no other way to judge, isn’t this the best option? Jokes apart, sometimes, things as random and whacky as flipping a coin can give you the deepest and most meaningful solutions. Agreeing completely with this, Jahanvi Shrivastava posted on Quora, "When faced with two choices, simply toss a coin. It works not because it settles the question for you, but because in that brief moment, when the coin is in the air, YOU SUDDENLY KNOW WHAT YOU'RE HOPING FOR. :)”
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Towards not only you, but others around you as well! Someone who thinks himself to be above all and loves only himself will always make you unhappy. Shambhavi Choudhary, another member at Quora says, "If you need to know how a person is, check how he behaves with people inferior to him i.e. like how he behaves with street children, beggars, housemaids, driver, waiter etc. Any person who does not discriminate, behaves affectionate with everyone, spreads smiles is a man worth getting married. He may not be romantic, extrovert, but will always be there for you no matter what and will not judge you when you were not much lovable."
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Do you need someone who has to his name a lot of academic degrees to his name, someone who has a government job or a guy with a big family business? Do you want to work after marriage or not? Do you want a nuclear or joint family? Do you want a guy with his own huge house or you want to stay in a cute little apartment? If you are able to answer all of these and similar questions, then girl you will have your man right before you!
Haven’t you heard the saying, "Marry the guy who loves you, not the one you love"? The one who is head-over-heels in love with you today, will in most possibility continue to do so forever! While it might be difficult to judge so early as both the guys might treat you really well, but you need to decipher small codes and understand the signals.
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You are not only marrying the guy, but his family as well. You need to see how his parents treat you and what they think of you. Also, the equation you share with not only your mother-in-law, but the other females in the house mattters a lot. Jayesh Lalwani, a member at Quora, puts it beautifully by saying, "The #1. predictor of a successful arranged marriage is the relationship between the new bride and other women in the household. You might be marrying the guy, but you have to get along with the women. The women have some sort of power structure. You need to see where you fit."
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Do you want to stay close to your parents after marriage or you are comfortable moving to another city/country. Do you think they will be able to manage alone? And, is your fiance as affectionate towards them as you are?
Not that it needs any reminding, but your parents do love you a lot, like This Father Of The Bride Gave Such A Heart-Touching Speech That It Left Us Smiling With Tears
Men usually get angry very easily. Whether it is about shouting at a waiter who dropped some water on your table, or on a car passing by, or at some random person who hurt his male ego, you definitely do not want to be stuck with a guy like that for life now, do you? So, while you spend time with him either alone or in public places, observe his behaviour and the trivial things that make him all hyper.
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And finally, make a list for yourself and chalk out the points that both the guys meet. And to make it simpler, here is a list by a member who answered on Quora,
You can make your own list and add more points that are relevant to your situation.
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While these are just a few points, it is a personal situation where you need to access and carefully make a decision. Another important thing is to take your time. One or two meetings cannot give you the real picture. So, select wisely to have a blissful life ahead!
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