While India today has progressed a lot economically, every household faces a dilemma when it comes to the relationship between the mother-in-law (MIL) and her daughter-in-law. Although this tiff has been going on since many generations, the plight of the daughter-in-law is felt more today as the generation gap seems to have increased by manifold.
So, for all the daughters-in law out there, here are some ways to tackle sticky situations that may crop up with their mothers-in-law.
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What you want to say: “Yes, because she was too busy educating me instead!”
What you should say: “I was too lazy then. Please teach me now.”
When spoken politely, these words can have a magical effect on your mother-in-law. They have been responsible for their family far too long to "not" think of you as competition. It could also be a possibility that she was expecting you to be “fully trained” in managing a house, but that might not be your area of expertise.
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What you want to say: “When are you going to give me time alone with my husband?”
What you should say: Nothing!
Some things are best left unsaid. It is a personal decision between the couple, and you do not need to argue or justify it to anyone else. When the time is right, they will get the news.
What you want to say: “But I do need my space!”
What you should say: “I am working because I like it and am good at it.”
There is no better way to explain this to your mom-in-law who might have expected you to follow her footsteps and remain within the boundaries of your home. What you can do is, shoulder your responsibilities properly so she does not have additional things to crib about.
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What you want to say: “I was planning to…”
What you should say: “You don’t like it? (Insert name of spouse) gifted this on my birthday.”
What better way to politely but firmly let your MIL know that she is not just criticising you, but her own son as well.
What you want to say: “That’s because you do not know any other way.”
What you should say: “Oh really? Please teach me how you do it.”
Indian MILs have been the 'Kitchen Queens' for too long. Anything new that you try to bring in may seem like you are one-upping her. Instead, till you reach cordial relations, placate her by doing it her way. She will herself ask you to try your way soon.
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What you want to say: “How much more time do you want?”
What you should say: (to your spouse) “Mummyji is feeling neglected. Give her some time.”
Every mother feels that her son is growing distant from her after marriage. This causes a direct resentment towards the daughter-in-law. Resolve it by making her feel wanted. Alternatively, you start giving her more time and attention.
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Well, if you ever come across any of the above-mentioned situations, you know how to win the heart of your mother-in-law.
