'Do not expect, do not get disappointed'- a simple ‘funda’ with which many individuals swear to live by today. After all, expectations can be quite tricky to live with. While some of them motivate you to achieve bigger in life, some may even put you in a tight spot. In a lot of cases where relationships turn sour, unreasonable expectations turn out to be the real evil. While the best way to proceed is to expect nothing and appreciate everything, it seems quite tough to follow when it comes to a man-woman relationship.
As 'Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus', certainly there is a lot of difference in their way of approaching things. So, when these poles apart individuals come together to build a relationship, their own set of expectations and beliefs often drive the relationship crazy. Not to start with blaming, but, here is a list of some unrealistic expectations that women keep from men, which often costs them their relationship.
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Being emotionally inclined, a lot of women strongly believe that if men cannot understand their silence, then they will not even understand their words. But, the truth is, words are much easier to understand! Women must not forget that their partner is a different individual altogether, and there are no cords attached between them, which can transfer the untold feelings or thoughts. So ladies, for men to do things for you, be vocal about what you want them to do.
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Change is the only constant thing in the world. A major expectation that some women keep from men is that, they will immediately change for them. They need to understand that some changes take time, especially when it is about changing one’s personality. People do change for each other, but such changes are gradual. You cannot expect a person to change overnight just because he has entered into a relationship with you. Women must understand that the individual has been like this for years, and you too fell in love with him for what he is. Then, why bother changing him now?
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A lot of women expect their partners to turn them as their priority. No matter how much time they spent together, it can certainly be not more than the number of years his family members have been with him. Apart from this, he has his set of hobbies, interests, goals, friends and other plans. So, you just cannot expect him to suddenly make you the centre of his world.
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You may have given him many sleepless nights, you may be the first and last thought of his day, but every time is not always about you. Do not doubt his loyalty, if he forgot to call you at some particular hour. He necessarily has to think about many other things apart from you, for instance, his job, house rents, EMIs, and others. Assuming you are the only thing in his mind is just the extension of expecting to be the centre of his world. You are an important part of his life, but not the only thing in his life.
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The scariest thing for a man is to give away his privacy. Men may or may not have secrets, but most of them are definitely not okay with sharing all details of their life. No matter how extrovert a man is, he will keep something or the other unshared. However, most women, on the other hand, tend to share everything they have in their heart. And hence, they expect their partners to do the same. Women want their men to share each moment of their day with them, irrespective of its relevance. Well ladies, men work more as per logic and less by emotion. They will share things only if they are important for you to know, so no point in forcing them into it. Moreover, sometimes, ignorance is bliss, so enjoy it!
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Every individual has a different taste and hence, different choice. People tend to come closer either because of similar choices or for having different ones. Change in choices is again something that happens over the period of time, only if the individual is open for it. You cannot force your man to change his choices just because you do not like them. Similarly, you also cannot expect him to like everything of your choice. Accept it!
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Enough is shown in films about romance and happily-ever-after-life. But ladies, you need to understand that life is not a 3-hour movie, where you can expect everything done and laid out for you. Life is something real and large. Therefore, do not expect your man to behave just like the hero did in your favourite movie. The hero took several retakes before getting the shot right, he did not have to worry about money before presenting that expensive solitaire, nor did he spend hours to plan that perfect date shown in the movie. Yes, you can make efforts to spend a day like in the movie to add spark in your mundane life, but you cannot expect your man to run around the trees and sing songs for you, at the drop of the hat.
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So ladies, try giving some breathing space to each other, as happiness in relationships exists when there are less expectations. And do not feel that we will let men getaway in this game of expectations. Even they have the capability to jeopardise their relationship, with these 5 Truly Unrealistic Things Men Expect From Women