Have you ever seen the movie Love Aaj Kal? At the beginning of the movie, Saif & Deepika decide that their relationship is not working out, since both partners have different dreams and goals in life. But they decide to remain friends – in fact, they even throw a break up party!
Well, if you thought that Bollywood movies were based on reality, watching this movie is all that you need to do to dispel your illusions. In real life, even the most amiable break ups are heart wrenchingly difficult. Moving on can be difficult, so say the least.
If you have ever had your heart broken by another and then found yourself in a quandary about how to move on, then look no further.
Forget about him
If you are reading this article, then you are probably at the stage where you are still mourning your dead relationship. The first step in the process of moving on is to forget about your ex. Regardless of how badly he has wronged you, feeling sorry for yourself won’t change the past. You need to start living your own life. Besides, don’t you know that living well is the best revenge?
Assess your current situation
Did you plan a future together with your ex? It can be especially difficult letting go of your dreams of a life together. But you need to move on. You have doubtless made countless minor and major adjustments for your ex – do you really want to keep sticking to them now that he is gone? This may sound corny, but you need to do some serious soul searching. What do you want to be? What do you want to do?
Reconnect with family and friends
Did you ignore some old friends because of the new flame in your life? This is the perfect time to rekindle old ties – after all, boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever! Why don’t you go hit the stores one day? There is nothing like retail therapy to lift one’s spirits.
Plan a girl’s night out where you all paint the town red! You are an attractive, beautiful woman. There is no need to become morose just because someone did not realize just how lucky they were to have you. Now that you are single, why don’t you show your ex-boyfriend just what he is missing? Flirt with all the cute guys you run into – it is just a little bit of harmless fun, not to mention a morale booster.
A final word of advice - if you find yourself feeling gloomy and depressed even after all your efforts, then don’t keep your feelings to yourself. Talk to your mom, sister or good friends about this. If things seem really difficult, you can contact a counselor. Having a neutral third party who can give you an objective viewpoint can be really helpful sometimes.
How about you? What methods have you found to be most effective while trying to get over a bad break up?