Marriage is a beautiful journey. One in which both the partners have to put in their share and efforts equally to make it a happy and long-lasting one. As they say, ‘’it takes two to tango’’, even in a marriage, one partner alone cannot run the show. So whether yours is a love or arranged one, if you feel your guy is showing certain gestures that are making you worried and you are having second thoughts, you need to have the talk with him. If you truly wish to make things work, here are some issues you need to sort out with him, before you decide to take the plunge!
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We don’t mean he should be with you 24*7, but making time for you when you need him the most, on special occasions and just keeping you on the top of his priority list is what should be ideal.
If he doesn’t respect other women, he will never respect you either. Talking in a sleazy manner about other girls or showing how insignificant their existence is or staring at them with all the wrong intentions is an alarming sign. You need to talk this out asap!
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It is for everyone, we are sure for you too, but leaving you out or sabotaging you whenever they are around can be a huge deal for you. If he does that now, think of how things will be post your wedding!
Money matters can destroy the closest of blood relations. Sorting this issue of 'your money, my money, you spend or I spend', thus is paramount if you need to reach a comfortable point in your relationship.
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There are times when you are down and low and your focus and self-esteem seem to be shaken. Not having his support or shoulder to rest on even then can leave you more lonely and disheartened. And won’t you want that support for a lifetime from your spouse?
And you are the only one changing yourself and sacrificing to make an environment and lifestyle that he wishes to follow.
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Why you work so late, why you have male friends, what is keeping you so long to pick up the phone, etc. You want to marry someone who gets you and you can call your soulmate and not a jail warden!
If he doesn’t respect your family, you will not be able to respect him. Also, whenever he will misbehave with your family, you will always feel helpless and hurt. What’s the use of such a relationship then?
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Cutting your sentences, not letting you voice your opinion and pinning constant jokes at you! Whose side is he on again? You want a guy who wants to show you off not keep you hidden in the background.
Because he feels he is mature and smart enough to take calls for the two of you. So not happening girl! Its time you spoke up!
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And you sense it from his unwilling behavior to do things as a couple or get to know this from his friends or family.
Anything and everything that doesn’t go according to plan is your fault! Would you want to put up with blames and accusations like that your entire life? No right? So it is time you spoke up!
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There is no need to be in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable and demands that you should change yourself completely to suit your partner’s likes and dislikes. And if you really love your partner, it is worth a shot to talk things out, discuss what you feel and at least try to sort things out.