The Indian society is structured in such a way that getting married and producing babies seems to be the ‘be all and end all’ of life! It’s like you’ve found your soul-mate, got married and some years later would have kids and everything else will work out on its own.
It is precisely here that even the smartest couples go wrong, only to repent later. We are trying to make a conscious effort to dissuade you from making these very mistakes. There will be new challenges in life after marriage, but it will make a lot of difference if you do things the right way.
Losing Touch with Friends
This applies more to women because men do find a way to keep in touch with their friends. They have so many things to do after wedding that friends seem to be the most easily dispensable creatures because socializing is time consuming. Well, alienating friends is not at all the thing to do, especially when it’s become so easy to keep in touch with everybody through BB, Facebook, Twitter and other technological innovations.
Once in a while arrange night-outs, short trips and shopping sprees with your friends and this way you will be able to give your spouse the much talked about breathing space without feeling left-out or ignored.
Not Dealing with Career Conflicts
Often married people take each others’ career goals and aspirations for granted. Whether it is to fulfill a stay at home duty or shifting to some other place on grounds of work, a wife is usually expected to forgo her job (unless she is making more than 50 grand a month!)
Have you ever noticed that your expectations from each other are all stereotypical in nature and if you have still not spoken about how things will be between the two of you, we suggest that you do so with utmost rationality. Give your relationship its due importance in all the decisions that you make.
Outlawing the in-laws
Majority of the married couples face problematic relationship with their in-laws, but where does the problem really lie? Just as it is not easy for you to accept the changes in your post-marriage, it becomes difficult for them as well to gel on with new relatives and deal with all the expectations.
Being on bad terms with your in-laws is not the thing to do. Try being cordial to them and manage expectations. If you are not able to take mom-in-law’s call at the moment, do make it a point to call her up as soon as you’re free. Do not say anything negative about your in-laws, even when your spouse is dismayed with his/her parents.
Not doing it Often/Enough
You know what we are hinting at and if you ask newlywed couples, majority of them will be found lamenting the loss of the charm of their honeymoon days. Most of them hit the work with vengeance after wedding festivities and as a result are too exhausted at the end of the day. This works against their marriage.
Make it a point to find time for each other and keep the passion alive in your relationship. Nobody likes nagging or being nagged. Try taking the initiative sometimes or responding to your partner.