Weddings may be centered on the bride and groom but how you behave at weddings says a lot about you as a guest. If you pass, expect to be on everyone’s guest list. Else, you will notice a significant decrease in invitations coming your way.
Like all parties, invitees to weddings are expected to understand and follow certain etiquette-official and unofficial-that contributes to positive experiences and relationships.
Mind Your Manners
Invitation – When you receive your invitation make sure you RSVP (respond please) by the given RSVP date. This will help the hosts arrange for seating and food accurately. Sending a reply after the RSVP date, replying in the negative and then showing up at the wedding, and replying in the positive and not showing up at the wedding are seen as inconsiderate behavior.
Bringing Guests – Unless the invitation specifically says you can bring your family or a guest, you are expected to assume that only you are to attend the event. If you are married, even if the invitation is addressed to you, you can take your spouse along. If you are dating someone casually, don’t take them along. Don’t bring your children, friends who aren’t invited, and strangers to the wedding, even if the card says ‘+guest’.
Gifts – You have up to a year to send the newlyweds their wedding gift. It is not necessary to bring the gift on the reception day; you can send it before or after. If you can’t attend the wedding of someone you know well, it is a good idea to still send a gift later. While this is not mandatory it is a good gesture.
Dress Code – Women should avoid wearing black and white, as they are considered inappropriate for weddings. Also, avoid wearing anything risqué, which takes the attention away from the bride.
Be Punctual – If the invitation states the time for the ceremonies, come on time. Showing up late or in the middle of ceremonies is an inconvenience.
Attention Seeker - Making loud jokes, getting drunk, and other behavior that takes the attention away for the newlyweds is extremely rude.
Seating – If seating is assigned, respect it instead of trying to swap places with others to get to a seat or partner of your choice.
Shutterbugs – Unless the hosts have specifically asked you to take pictures, avoid it. You can ask them to send you copies of the official photographs taken.
By following these basic tips on weddiquette, you can avoid committing a faux pas that is embarrassing to both you and your hosts. Enjoy the celebrations and share the happiness with the newlyweds!
