The times have changed considerably and women today are quickly outsmarting men, even pay wise. Often situations arise where the bride is easily making more money than the groom does or after marriage, the groom (now husband) may suffer a cut in his pay, which may make his income lower than that of his wife. This is a dynamic world and anything can happen, however, question is, do these ever changing things take care of your love and relationship or it is through your undying love for each other, you manage to steer clear free from the pool of challenges posed by these issues, especially financial matters.
The traditional mindset
Since times immemorial, the roles of husband and wife have been distinct and separated. Our compartmentalized society refuses to be flexible on these issues, especially those that are of the financial nature. Husband goes out to earn and the wife looks after the home. This mindset is changing, what with so many females choosing to work post marriage and maintain their financial independency.
The issue at hand
Being the breadwinner of the family is a matter of pride and self-respect for the husband. However irrational that may sound, the fact remains the same because this is how our society is structured. Earlier, people did not even consider marriage between the two, if between them the female earned more than the male.
Today, there are mixed opinions on the issues. While many men claim that they are perfectly fine with their better halves earning more than them, very few of them actually live up to their claims. Ego issues, fights over absolutely nothing and mounting frustration serve as the nemesis of the relationship.
The solution
Agreed that money is an important factor in a wedlock, however, the it is not based solely upon it. Love, care, commitment, emotional and social support are considered the pillars of the institution of marriage.
As in all other cases, communication is the key to maintaining harmony in this case as well. Communicate freely with each other so that there is no scope for false assumptions and misjudgment of intentions. Understand that at the end of the day, the money is being used towards securing a better and brighter future.
The real test of manhood is not in making more money or being the breadwinner. It is in being there for your wife and your family when they need you. On the other hand, it would only ruin the relationship if the woman earning more that her husband starts bragging about being the breadwinner or shouldering the responsibility. It is not a big deal unless the couple chooses to make it.
Do you think you would be able to balance your relationship equation in such circumstances?