Change is not easy. But women all over the world make tough choices in the name of love. Michele Obama gave up a very successful career as an attorney to look after her children Malia and Sasha in the 90s. Karishma Kapoor gave up the glamorous world of Bollywood movies to become a housewife when she got married in 2005. Twinkle Khanna switched careers as well after her marriage to Akshay Kumar – from a hot young actress to a budding interior designer.
For me, the scariest part about meeting someone new is the degree of uncertainty that it brings to your life – on one hand, you want to show the other person who the “real” you is, and on the other hand, you have an urge to tell him what you think he wants to hear. This is not an easy line to stride. You need to work out your own comfort zone and figure out how much you will be willing to change for a guy. But I can share with you the things that I would change (or absolutely not change) for a guy.
It is not necessary for you to feel the same way about the same things. For instance, if you like to splurge on the latest Ritu Kumar designs, but he doesn’t, then that is good news for your joint bank account. Your personalities complement each other, which means that you have a pretty good chance at happiness together.
At the same time, compromise is also necessary to build any good relationship. For instance, if one of you loves to splurge and this is causing unnecessary strain in your relationship, then you may have to reconsider your spending habits.
Here’s a list of the things that I will not change for any guy:
The way I look
I may not be Aishwarya Rai, but I am still pretty satisfied with the way I look. That includes my complexion, my hair and my weight. So if my guy asks me to lose weight/ make major changes to my hairstyle/ get my skin bleached, then he is in for a rude awakening.
The people I hang out with
My motto is: To each his own. I would never dream of interfering with the people that my guy chooses to spend time with. After all, a relationship is all about trust, and if you don’t trust him with other people, then why are you still together? I expect my guy to return the courtesy, and not bug me if I choose to go out with my friends one night.
My personality
I have a unique identity that sets me apart from everyone else in the world. I would be willing to make minor adjustments, but I cannot change who I am to please someone else.
What about you? What would you be willing to change for a guy, and what is absolutely off limits for you? Or if you are already in a relationship, then share your real life experience with us.
