Question: I am a very friendly person. My friends circle has been always active and kept swelling over the years. When I got married, my in-laws were stunned to see the turnout. My husband was cool with the fact that I have so many friends to lean on in times of stress and happiness. But lately, he has started acting weird. Whenever I make plans to have a friends day out which happens very rarely, he tries to dissuade me from indulging in it. Sometimes he even refrains me outrightly. The trend remains the same even if I plan a shopping trip with my girl friends. I have tried talking to him but he does not seem to understand. Please help me out as I want both my friends and husband to co-exist in my life with my hubby taking the major chunk. Am I doing anything wrong? Suhana, Mirpur.
Answer:Suhana, trust me you are not doing anything wrong. Marriage doesn’t mean all your time is meant for your husband. But you need to tackle the situation tactfully. You believe in the fact that your husband takes the major chunk in your life, which is good, but you will have to prove this to him.
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May be you are the only friend he has got as you haven’t mentioned anything about his friends. So he feels little possessive towards you which is not a wrong emotion. Try to involve him in your group. Whenever you go out with your friends, take him along. Let him enjoy the company of your friends
Sometimes go out exclusively with your husband. Make him feel like your friend. Gain his trust. It’s very important that he trusts you for him to acknowledge your friendly outings!
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